5 Things No One Tells You About Adulting
The Urban Dictionary defines Adulting as; “to carry out one or more of the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals (paying off that credit card debt, settling beef without blasting social media, etc). Exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time.”
Adulting doesn’t hit you when you’re 21, when you have your first credit card, or sometimes not even when you move (if your parents are still helping you out anyway). Adulting will hit you like a ton of bricks one day when you’re sitting there questioning what you’re doing or what you should do next. I feel like no one can prepare you for that moment either, not your parents or school. When I was going to start college I had this HUGE expectation of how college would be. Long story short, college is shit. Not because of the structure or education but because you don’t get taught the things you NEED to learn in life. I expected college to be the perfect combination of learning things for whatever degree you’re taking and teaching you about valuable life steps.
Here are 5 things I’ve learned about Adulting:
- Balancing life. There’s this thing where you must find a balance for hanging with your friends, family time, your bf/ gf, your parents, time for yourself and work. Finding a balance that works for you is key. This can be your stress reliever or even another stressor.
- Building your credit. Having credit is soo important! You need it for everything. I highly recommend not to spend money with a credit card if you do not have the money in hand! This year I’ve been getting rid of a shit ton of bills and I realized that my parents never really taught me how to manage or build my credit. My parents have excellent credit but I guess it’s something they missed teaching me or maybe I didn’t listen? I don’t know! But all colleges and universities should include a day lecture on this! Just saying…
- Getting old! Every time I’m at the gym doing cardio, I always just think to myself “fuck. How was I able to run for 30 min straight in high school?” Our bodies change sooo much the older you get. Metabolism slows down, skin changes, wrinkles come, your body rejects certain foods you use to eat, and allergies, etc. No one preps you for that either.
- Knowing when to remove yourself from a situation. This is something that is more of a life lesson I suppose? This could be anything from a personal situation, hating your job, not associating yourself with a certain crowd, or any circumstances you encounter that is only affecting you negatively. I admire one of my BFF's so much for the way she handles her career. If she’s not happy in one job, she moves onto the next and makes sure it’s even better than the last. Why can’t we all be like that? Lol. We actually can, but it’s more difficult for some. The point is, knowing when something isn’t for you anymore and moving forward into something better.
- Parents getting older. For me, it’s hard seeing my parents age because they’re tired from working all the time without taking time off for themselves. Seeing my parents not do things they use to be able to do sucks. I remember growing up, when I would be lazy my mom would always say “what are you going to do when I’m not alive?” I always told her that wouldn’t happen
Growing up is inevitable. We'll all be adults and learn life lessons along the way.
I'll leave you with these wise words from Paulo Coelho:
"Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience."