Do we set ourselves up for failure?
Do we set ourselves up for failure? This question is a tough one. Have you every thought to yourself if you set yourself up for failure? Do you ever ask yourself where would you be if you did this instead of that? Do you feel like you’re holding yourself back from becoming someone better?
I came across this question months ago when I was sitting down thinking of where I am in life and where I want to be. I created this blog in order to share my ideas and to share insights on different aspects of life. But I have been slacking on it, and that I know. But I’ve been so caught up trying to figure out where I want to be in life and how to get there without actually making any progress. My failure to make progress has led me to write this post.
Failure is something everyone hates. The biggest thing people forget about failure, is that you learn so much. If you start off on a business venture and it does not work out the way you planned for it to be, do you consider it a failure or a lesson? Behind every single failure, there is a lesson to learn. Lets say in this business venture you failed at, did you ever see the benefits of the failure? Such as, making your next business venture successful based off what lead to the failure of the first one. Or are you only viewing the negative side?
If you are always thinking negative about something, then guess what? You bought the negative energy upon yourself to make you fail. Another example is when you’re in school and have finals. You start doubting yourself so much of how bad you’re going to do instead of putting that energy into studying and thinking positive. The negative energy consumes you so much that you have no space for the positive aspect.
Sometimes the fear of failure itself causes failure. In the way that you end up doing absolutely nothing with your life and you end up “stuck” where you are. In reality, it was your choice to stay there because of your fear of failing at something new, then makes you end up seeing yourself as a failure. Get where I'm going with this?
Many financial experts say that success begins with failure. Look at Steve Jobs and what he did with Apple. That is a great example of using the failures, you’ve had to create something bigger and better! There are also women like Sophia Amoruso, who created Nasty Gal. Amoruso’s eBay store was shut down then created her own online website and became successful.
The big question is not if you’re setting yourself up for failure but what are you doing that you are not giving yourself a chance to succeed or to fail at something and learn from it? If the answer is nothing, then you better get your ass up and start working on something. At the end of the day, a learning experience is better than not knowing at all.
Are you asking yourself the right questions?