When I was a teenager I envisioned everything that I would have, and become by the age of 25. Now, at 25 years old, I realized how delusional I was. Becoming an adult is not easy. Bills are no fun, work is no fun (if you are not passionate about what you do), seeing your parents get older and older as the years go by- is tough, and life throws jabs when you least expect it. Being an adult is hard sometimes.
- Appreciate who you have in your life before they pass away from old age. I was always that kid that thought my parents would be around forever. It’s hard seeing them grow old. I don’t think anyone ever preps you for that. Same for my grandparents. I remember when my grandfather died, then a couple of years later my godfather passed away- that shit is hard to take in. Help your parents with whatever they need. Don’t treat them like crap just because you’re in a shitty mood. Time is something you will never get back.
- Life is short in a lot of ways. Time flies! I was on Facebook the other day and a picture popped up from 6 years ago! I thought to myself "Crap! What have I been doing with my life the past 6 years?" Appreciate every moment you experience. Capture pictures when you get a chance but don’t get too consumed with trying to record everything, you’ll miss all the fun.
- Don’t settle for BS. It’s like reading a book you don’t find interesting. Put the book down and get a better one. Treat life that way. Strive for nothing but the best.
- Don’t be a hater! One thing I despise is a hater. Be happy for your friends’ successes and accomplishments! It’s not cool to put other people down or talk crap about others.
- Strive for what you’re passionate about. I don’t have a specific passion, but those who do, go full throttle on doing whatever you must accomplish the end goal.
- Don't depend on others or wait for things to get handed to you. I've always been the person to get myself whatever I wanted because it's what I WANT. Plus that way no one can ever say they got it for you and hold it over your head. Be a go-getter!
- It's okay to say no. I say no often to a lot of things. Events, food, going somewhere, etc. There is nothing wrong with saying no to things. I turn down things because I know it's something I do not want to do/ like, will enjoy or just something I cannot do at the moment. A variety of reasons. The point is that it is alright to say no one in a while. You're not going to die.
- Make a decision when you have options. Whether it's multiple job offers, your college major or an outfit, pick something. Making decisions is something you have to do as an adult. If it's the right decision or the wrong decision, you will not know until you actually decide. (Unless it's obvious of course)
- Be sure to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are. As a teenager, you swear you're so confident but once you become an adult and get out there into the real world, you need to make sure you keep that confidence within you no matter what. I've been on interviews that after I left, I thought "shit, I fucked that up" and lost my confidence. Not anymore. Basically, people will try to tear you down. Don't let them. No matter who it is.
Being an adult is something no one can avoid. Make the best out of it. Life’s about the experiences you make. Traveling, taking a long drive, eating new/ great food, watching a movie at the comfort of your home, etc. It’s the simple things. Make the best out of it and prevail.
I will leave you with this quote:
"...when each day is the same as the next, it's because people fail to recognize the good things that happen in their lives every day that the sun rises."- The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.